Comments on DarshanChande.com: Is Friendship Driven by Purposes?

You're quite right about the "prioritize ...

2009-12-01T14:35:28.154+05:30

You're quite right about the "prioritize friends" phrase. Infact most of us do it in the subconscious mind but would never dare to admit it for the simple fear of offending our "not so important" friends. The word "friends" comes in handy to address those "acquaintances".

And then there is a thing called being "at the same wavelength". We tend to be closer to people with whom we're simpatico.

A good post.
Cheers !!

I totally totally agree with what you have writen....

2009-12-01T12:59:09.152+05:30

I totally totally agree with what you have writen. We do prioritize friends. We like it or not but we do it. Consciously or sub-consciously. Lets say I have about a hundred friends. Out of which 5 may be just acquaintances. Another 5 may be whom I dont personally like but still I dont wanna do away with them coz somewhere I know that they may be helpful. That is when purpose of friends comes in. Similarly I have 50 friends whom I know from different places. They are the friends whom I like talking to. Maybe I like somebody's dressing sense, somebody's taste with regards to food, places, etc etc... Again prioritize. Thats how it is. But the reality is that we do not accept this fact. But it does exist. in every individual. In every mind.

i agree with dhaval, i need friends just for compa...

2009-11-27T10:16:36.567+05:30

i agree with dhaval, i need friends just for company... it depends on ppls nature. i never ask for any help or anything from any of my friends, and i dont make new friends..

You know, sometimes I feel friendship itself is a ...

2009-11-25T00:50:51.651+05:30

You know, sometimes I feel friendship itself is a purpose. I may be called a pussy for this, but I need my friends. I need to be around them. They may be useless, even damaging in someways, but I need them. I may be wrong, but man is a social animal and we all need friends just to not be alone.

Expecting is just human nature. Even friendship ca...

2009-11-24T15:39:11.290+05:30

Expecting is just human nature. Even friendship can be selfish where you expect a minimum something from your friend. The world is all about give n take after all!

Very true...everything we do is driven by a purpos...

2009-11-23T21:07:59.978+05:30

Very true...everything we do is driven by a purpose...the essence of the post was the break the myth of an 'ideal' friendship/relationship. I agree. The day we start to view relationships as give and take, life becomes simple, happiness becomes easy.
Selflessness is never possible in the true sense of the word. And an understanding of this can eliminate unrealistic expectations and unnecessary hurts and heartbreaks.

:) Another great post...

Nice one Darshan....Different thought and correct....

2009-11-23T15:22:48.486+05:30

Nice one Darshan....Different thought and correct..

Human beings do prioritise among freinds and freindship based upon their need,sometimes intentionally or even subconciously. Everyone does it no matter how much they deny.

I liked the opening line "Friendship is a nice name of the ugly game." Sums up Well..!! :)

Every coin has two sides and you have just pen dow...

2009-11-23T11:05:45.562+05:30

Every coin has two sides and you have just pen down the another or negative side of the Friendship n it is all true...well written post

We expect something in return of something from ev...

2009-11-23T00:27:52.888+05:30

We expect something in return of something from everyone ... But not all are called friends.

This subconscious feeling has a wider base then only friendship ... Friendship is a diff concept all together .. both of these feelings along with numerous other ones go by simultaneously as we live along.. One effects the other .. which is only natural ....

Everything that a human does has a conscious or ...

2009-11-22T20:41:38.916+05:30

Everything that a human does has a conscious or subconscious purpose and making friends is no exception. It is true that any healthy relationship is byproduct of understanding and mutual respect and friendship is no different.

For me I see my reflection in my friends and
The glory of friendship is felt in the spiritual inspiration that comes to me when I discover that someone else believes and is willing to trust me.
Truth nicely expressed... with same bitter coat that is typical of your Darshan style....:)