Humans are not wired for marriage. We are fundamentally selfish and unfaithful. Divorce is not an abnormal phenomenon, but marriage is. This is what I thought about marriage a year or so back, which is not altogether wrong. But over the recent past the absurdity of life has got accentuated in my understanding and it's changed my philosophy a little bit.
Humans are not wired for happiness also; the way our life is made up of unending queue of desires and expectations, and constant struggle and suffering it inevitably entails. What do we do then? Stop chasing happiness? That would be like ceasing to live; because the only thing that justifies choosing to live over death is the element of happiness, IOW, the good things of life.
Just like we know that we are not wired to have sustained happiness and still living for the sake of happiness is only right, so is the case with everything else in life.
We are wired with eternally conflicting forces with regard to everything. One force creates the craving for some experience, and another force diminishes that experience, thereby eroding the joy of it, when we are having it. The reason for such tendencies lies in Nature's evolution mechanism, the sole purpose of which is to put us through suffering to refine the genes, so to speak. But what are we to do?
The best way seems to be to choose our actions based in part on rational understanding and in part on intuitions – in other words, the balance of reason and instincts – and expect the unexpected from life, so as to lessen the impact of "shocks" when they come. Complete abstinence from any of the innate drives will only invite misery.
Well, the desire for marriage is not innate, of course.. Romantic relationship, for that matter.
Humans are not wired for happiness also; the way our life is made up of unending queue of desires and expectations, and constant struggle and suffering it inevitably entails. What do we do then? Stop chasing happiness? That would be like ceasing to live; because the only thing that justifies choosing to live over death is the element of happiness, IOW, the good things of life.
Just like we know that we are not wired to have sustained happiness and still living for the sake of happiness is only right, so is the case with everything else in life.
We are wired with eternally conflicting forces with regard to everything. One force creates the craving for some experience, and another force diminishes that experience, thereby eroding the joy of it, when we are having it. The reason for such tendencies lies in Nature's evolution mechanism, the sole purpose of which is to put us through suffering to refine the genes, so to speak. But what are we to do?
The best way seems to be to choose our actions based in part on rational understanding and in part on intuitions – in other words, the balance of reason and instincts – and expect the unexpected from life, so as to lessen the impact of "shocks" when they come. Complete abstinence from any of the innate drives will only invite misery.
Well, the desire for marriage is not innate, of course.. Romantic relationship, for that matter.
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