In What Are the Stages in a Relationship? I said that perfect communion is the ultimate stage in a relationship. When you share such supreme level of understanding and connection with the other person that you no more remain close to each other’s center, but your centers become one, that’s called perfect communion.
In this article I will explain perfect communion in more detail.
Perfect communion is the rarest of the rare event. When I say this it means one in a million. For it to happen the persons involved need to be deeply spiritual.
Imagine a circle with a dot in the center. That dot in the center is where the person's core is. Where one really exists. And the boundary of a circle is one's periphery. Between the center and the periphery are the trifling things of one's existence. When you get close to someone beyond one’s periphery you start getting to know one. Thus, by “being close to each other's center” it means knowing each other. The more the persons know each other more they are said to be close to each other's center.
In perfect communion, however, the persons are no more close to each other's center, but they have reached each other's center and the centers have become one. It's to be understood that to allow someone to reach your center there has to be absolute absence of fear on your part, and to reach someone's center it requires perfect awareness of the self and the universe around you. In this way, only a spiritually developed person can allow other person to reach his center, and can reach other person's center.
Have you ever thought why you don't allow people to know you beyond a limit? It’s because of the fear. And for the same reason other people are not allowing you to reach their center. Fear. This fear is to be gotten rid of. And to get rid of the fear first it’s to be understood what this fear is.
The fear exists because of ego (self). Your ego is always insecure. You always want to protect your ego and keep it within the comfort zone. You allow someone to know you only up to the extent it's convenient for and comforting to your ego, because you don't want to lose anyone who forms the comfort zone of your ego. Needing someone is always for the ego. Thus, owing to the needs of your ego the fear is created in you.
To reach your center the other person has to penetrate your ego. In other words, you have to let go of your ego. Only when you are egoless (selfless) you are truly fearless. Reaching selflessness is the goal of spiritual development. That's the reason I have said that the two persons need to be deeply spiritual for perfect communion to take place.
In perfect communion, the irony of the situation is that neither of the persons actually needs other person for his/her own wellbeing. As it is, they are already egoless. And the beauty of the situation is that the persons are related only for the purest pleasure of the communion. Purest, because it’s absolutely unconditional. Where there’s no ego, there can’t be conditions.
At other levels of relationship (viz. acquaintances, friends) it's the meeting of egos. Perfect communion is the meeting of centers which are beyond egos. Perfect communion is, actually, no more a relationship between the persons; because a relationship is constructed on a purpose, and purpose is the food of ego. When the ego vanishes you are reduced to a mere soul. Perfect communion is the meeting of egoless souls. Hence, I have called it soul mates.
In this article I will explain perfect communion in more detail.
Perfect communion is the rarest of the rare event. When I say this it means one in a million. For it to happen the persons involved need to be deeply spiritual.
Imagine a circle with a dot in the center. That dot in the center is where the person's core is. Where one really exists. And the boundary of a circle is one's periphery. Between the center and the periphery are the trifling things of one's existence. When you get close to someone beyond one’s periphery you start getting to know one. Thus, by “being close to each other's center” it means knowing each other. The more the persons know each other more they are said to be close to each other's center.
In perfect communion, however, the persons are no more close to each other's center, but they have reached each other's center and the centers have become one. It's to be understood that to allow someone to reach your center there has to be absolute absence of fear on your part, and to reach someone's center it requires perfect awareness of the self and the universe around you. In this way, only a spiritually developed person can allow other person to reach his center, and can reach other person's center.
Have you ever thought why you don't allow people to know you beyond a limit? It’s because of the fear. And for the same reason other people are not allowing you to reach their center. Fear. This fear is to be gotten rid of. And to get rid of the fear first it’s to be understood what this fear is.
The fear exists because of ego (self). Your ego is always insecure. You always want to protect your ego and keep it within the comfort zone. You allow someone to know you only up to the extent it's convenient for and comforting to your ego, because you don't want to lose anyone who forms the comfort zone of your ego. Needing someone is always for the ego. Thus, owing to the needs of your ego the fear is created in you.
To reach your center the other person has to penetrate your ego. In other words, you have to let go of your ego. Only when you are egoless (selfless) you are truly fearless. Reaching selflessness is the goal of spiritual development. That's the reason I have said that the two persons need to be deeply spiritual for perfect communion to take place.
In perfect communion, the irony of the situation is that neither of the persons actually needs other person for his/her own wellbeing. As it is, they are already egoless. And the beauty of the situation is that the persons are related only for the purest pleasure of the communion. Purest, because it’s absolutely unconditional. Where there’s no ego, there can’t be conditions.
Why perfect communion is also called “soul mates”?
At other levels of relationship (viz. acquaintances, friends) it's the meeting of egos. Perfect communion is the meeting of centers which are beyond egos. Perfect communion is, actually, no more a relationship between the persons; because a relationship is constructed on a purpose, and purpose is the food of ego. When the ego vanishes you are reduced to a mere soul. Perfect communion is the meeting of egoless souls. Hence, I have called it soul mates.
What perfect communion is not?
- It's not what is colloquially referred to as “soul mates” in romantic relationships.
- It's not a “meant-to-be” thing. No one is, like, “destined” to find a soul mate for oneself.
- It's possible with any number of people.
- It's not a meeting of two lost souls; or meeting of lost parts of a soul. (That's crap!)
- It's not the purpose of your existence to find a soul mate.
- It's nothing to do with romance, nor with love.
- It's not necessarily lasing forever.
- It's not reached with outward efforts, but inward.
UPDATE (September 2011): This post need not be taken too seriously. This abstract concept I myself now consider redundant to my philosophy.
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