I often hear people asking, "Do you believe in luck?" and it always makes me wonder what they mean by "luck", and what to answer to it when they ask such a question. Through this article I will put my explanation of the word.
Most of the people I have seen believing in luck believe that whatever happens in our life is not really in our control. Furthermore, the rationale behind such belief is that events in our life happen as written! That is, our destiny is somewhere written beforehand. So, everything that happens in our life is predetermined. That written "plan" is what is referred to as destiny.
Luck is destiny.
Let’s take a hypothetical incident and see how these people would interpret it.
It’s raining, and four boys are playing in the garden. All of a sudden lightning strikes one of the boys and kills him immediately. The mother of the boy who died is in great grief and is asking God, "Why my son, out of all four!"
People believing in luck in this way would say that it was already written who will die, and no one could avoid or change it. He died because he was "unlucky". In other words, he was "destined" to die at that moment.
I have seen such type of people who don't care much about the kind of life they live. They live life as it comes. When asked, they say it does not matter whether you live with planning or without it. After all, you will only get what is written in your destiny. However hard you work, if you are destined to be poor then you will remain poor. And if you don't work but are destined to be rich then you will win a lottery and be rich. It's all luck. Destiny! This is the mentality of the people who believe in luck in this way.
Well, thus far don't see a reason to believe in destiny. You see, believing in destiny is not the same as believing in God. I am saying God because both destiny and God are non-quantifiable and beyond rationality. But one at least has some motivation for believing in God. That is, if one believes in God then one will pray for wellbeing and it will please God and He will grant one wellbeing. Well, it doesn’t really happen but just assuming that there is such God, one at least has some motivation for believing in Him. But what is the motivation for believing in destiny? Unlike believing in God, believing in destiny is not going to change anything. Just as they say, the event will happen anyway. All it will do is free one from the mental exercise of understanding and reasoning of some seemingly extra-ordinary event in one's life. Is that a good reason for believing in destiny?
Then I have a better reason for not believing in destiny.
If you strongly believe that everything in your life happens as written and you can not control or avoid it then somewhere down inside your activeness is lessened, because you believe that if you are destined to have something then you will have it anyway, and if it is not your destiny then you will never have it however hard you try. Moreover, you will stop taking credit for the good things that happen to you and thereby lose out on important self-confidence building experiences of life; and at the same time you will stop bearing accountability for the bad things that happen to you and thereby lose out on learning important lessons of diligence with life. By attributing everything to destiny you be loser both ways!
When you believe in destiny you don't put in your entire efforts because you are always skeptic about whether the thing is in your destiny at all. When you believe in destiny you believe that destiny governs your life. Destiny is active. The stronger your belief that destiny is active, more passive you be.
Stop believing in destiny for a change. There is nothing written. No destiny. That means everything is in your control. You yourself can shape your destiny. When you will realize that there is nothing written about your life and you are in complete charge of your life you will have the reason to do everything most actively.
Isn't active living more full of life than passive living? It is needless to say when you are active the events in your life are more in your control. Of course, it won’t always be in control (and I will explain why), but if so happens, then that is what would have happened anyway if you had believed in destiny!
In short, believing in destiny would not change anything except making a loser of you. But by not believing in it you can take full control of your life and be active. Stop being a loser. Feel completely alive!
Rationally speaking, there is nothing like destiny.
If there is no destiny then it is important to understand why you are tempted to believe in destiny. Let's understand it with help of another example –
Rohan and Mohan are two friends who have given their degree exams. Rohan is good at studies and is pretty sure that he will pass it with good marks whereas Mohan is not-so-good at studies and is doubtful whether he will make it through. Surprisingly, when the results come, Mohan passes and Rohan fails the exam. They can't believe it. The one who is good at studies fails and the one who is poor at studies passes!
This example represents very commonly experienced phenomena of our life that tempt us to believe in destiny. But before jumping onto any such conclusion you have to understand the dynamics of efforts and rewards.
The efforts and rewards are not always directly related. Besides your efforts, there are many factors in place that shape the rewards. Considering the above example, even though Rohan is good at studies and has put in his best efforts his paper might have gone through the hands of a very strict examiner, or the examiner's mood was bad when assessing his paper, or his answer-book containing important portion of answers was detached and missed out. The possibilities are endless and unimaginable. So, his failure can not be attributed to something called destiny just because you are unable to understand what might have gone wrong. The same works in case of Mohan. Even though he is poor at studies his dynamics favored him somehow and he passed. Destiny is nowhere in the picture.
To continue the argument till eternity you might say then why the dynamics worked in favor of one and against the other. It so happened because it was written!
There is a better explanation for it. What happened in the above example is called coincidence. When the event is beyond reasoning and comprehension is it coincidence.
Luck is coincidence, or a set of coincidences.
Luck is not destiny. There is nothing written. Happenings of seemingly extra-ordinary events in people's lives are nothing but coincidences.
Coincidences are not bound in any rules. They are accidental. When a good coincidence takes place in someone's life you can say that he is lucky, and vice versa.
These two theories of luck — Luck as Destiny and Luck as Coincidence — are all-encompassing. That is, you must accept one of them. Now, as for the "Luck as Destiny" theory, I gave you a pretty good reason for not believing in it. So, the only rational thing would be to accept "Luck as Coincidence."
And why, out of million sperms released only the one that was fastest became victorious to be born and you took place. It's a coincidence! In the unimaginably vast universe only our planet has got life on it. It's a coincidence. Intelligence in human beings is a coincidence! The entire existence is a coincidence! If you can digest such big coincidences then how can you not digest the phenomenon as in the above example? There is no destiny. Coincidences are all over!
Now before you start thinking that after all coincidences govern your life and that you still won't have control over it let me tell you I have still not disclosed the most important part about the whole luck thing. It's in understanding the "coincidence".
When some seemingly extra-ordinary event is beyond reasoning and comprehension, we call it coincidence. But the fact is that in the existence nothing is extra-ordinary. Everything in Nature is governed by precise dynamics. The dynamics that causes the existence to be is beyond comprehension of human mind and that is the reason when something goes unexpected and uncomprehended it seems extra-ordinary to us, and we name it as coincidence.
The most important thing to understand about coincidence is that it is never targeted at someone. So, there is no question of coincidences governing your life.
Example: You are about to step out of your house and just then it starts raining. Well, it is a coincidence for sure and nothing wrong if you call it your "bad luck" if you didn't want the rain. But, if you think that this coincidence was targeted at you by Nature then you are wrong! The rain is an ordinary event in Nature and there is dynamics (or science) behind it, just like in case of everything else. It does not always rain only when you are about to step out. It rains even when you are sleeping inside your house. And besides, whenever it rains there is someone who is about to step out of some place. Does that mean the rain is always targeted at some people? That it always rains to spoil someone's time?
No. Just because sometimes ordinary events of Nature fall in the way which is not desired by you at the moment it does not mean that Nature has targeted it at you. Likewise, sometimes the ordinary events of Nature fall in unexpectedly pleasant way then too it does not mean that the favor was bestowed upon you by Nature.
Whether the event was extra-ordinary (in good or bad way) or not depends on your own situation and perspective at the moment. Thus, coincidence is not a natural phenomenon, but has everything to do with the person's mind.
You can surely call pleasant coincidences your "good luck" and unpleasant ones your "bad luck", but there is no reason to think that something miraculous as "luck" governs your life. There is no reason for giving up control of your life. Yes, your life will surely be affected by the dynamics around you, but then you are also a part of the dynamics in that your existence also affects the whole! Makes sense? So, you had better be active rather than counting on your luck!
Luck as Destiny
Most of the people I have seen believing in luck believe that whatever happens in our life is not really in our control. Furthermore, the rationale behind such belief is that events in our life happen as written! That is, our destiny is somewhere written beforehand. So, everything that happens in our life is predetermined. That written "plan" is what is referred to as destiny.
Luck is destiny.
Let’s take a hypothetical incident and see how these people would interpret it.
It’s raining, and four boys are playing in the garden. All of a sudden lightning strikes one of the boys and kills him immediately. The mother of the boy who died is in great grief and is asking God, "Why my son, out of all four!"
People believing in luck in this way would say that it was already written who will die, and no one could avoid or change it. He died because he was "unlucky". In other words, he was "destined" to die at that moment.
I have seen such type of people who don't care much about the kind of life they live. They live life as it comes. When asked, they say it does not matter whether you live with planning or without it. After all, you will only get what is written in your destiny. However hard you work, if you are destined to be poor then you will remain poor. And if you don't work but are destined to be rich then you will win a lottery and be rich. It's all luck. Destiny! This is the mentality of the people who believe in luck in this way.
Well, thus far don't see a reason to believe in destiny. You see, believing in destiny is not the same as believing in God. I am saying God because both destiny and God are non-quantifiable and beyond rationality. But one at least has some motivation for believing in God. That is, if one believes in God then one will pray for wellbeing and it will please God and He will grant one wellbeing. Well, it doesn’t really happen but just assuming that there is such God, one at least has some motivation for believing in Him. But what is the motivation for believing in destiny? Unlike believing in God, believing in destiny is not going to change anything. Just as they say, the event will happen anyway. All it will do is free one from the mental exercise of understanding and reasoning of some seemingly extra-ordinary event in one's life. Is that a good reason for believing in destiny?
Then I have a better reason for not believing in destiny.
If you strongly believe that everything in your life happens as written and you can not control or avoid it then somewhere down inside your activeness is lessened, because you believe that if you are destined to have something then you will have it anyway, and if it is not your destiny then you will never have it however hard you try. Moreover, you will stop taking credit for the good things that happen to you and thereby lose out on important self-confidence building experiences of life; and at the same time you will stop bearing accountability for the bad things that happen to you and thereby lose out on learning important lessons of diligence with life. By attributing everything to destiny you be loser both ways!
When you believe in destiny you don't put in your entire efforts because you are always skeptic about whether the thing is in your destiny at all. When you believe in destiny you believe that destiny governs your life. Destiny is active. The stronger your belief that destiny is active, more passive you be.
Stop believing in destiny for a change. There is nothing written. No destiny. That means everything is in your control. You yourself can shape your destiny. When you will realize that there is nothing written about your life and you are in complete charge of your life you will have the reason to do everything most actively.
Isn't active living more full of life than passive living? It is needless to say when you are active the events in your life are more in your control. Of course, it won’t always be in control (and I will explain why), but if so happens, then that is what would have happened anyway if you had believed in destiny!
In short, believing in destiny would not change anything except making a loser of you. But by not believing in it you can take full control of your life and be active. Stop being a loser. Feel completely alive!
Luck as Coincidence
Rationally speaking, there is nothing like destiny.
If there is no destiny then it is important to understand why you are tempted to believe in destiny. Let's understand it with help of another example –
Rohan and Mohan are two friends who have given their degree exams. Rohan is good at studies and is pretty sure that he will pass it with good marks whereas Mohan is not-so-good at studies and is doubtful whether he will make it through. Surprisingly, when the results come, Mohan passes and Rohan fails the exam. They can't believe it. The one who is good at studies fails and the one who is poor at studies passes!
This example represents very commonly experienced phenomena of our life that tempt us to believe in destiny. But before jumping onto any such conclusion you have to understand the dynamics of efforts and rewards.
The efforts and rewards are not always directly related. Besides your efforts, there are many factors in place that shape the rewards. Considering the above example, even though Rohan is good at studies and has put in his best efforts his paper might have gone through the hands of a very strict examiner, or the examiner's mood was bad when assessing his paper, or his answer-book containing important portion of answers was detached and missed out. The possibilities are endless and unimaginable. So, his failure can not be attributed to something called destiny just because you are unable to understand what might have gone wrong. The same works in case of Mohan. Even though he is poor at studies his dynamics favored him somehow and he passed. Destiny is nowhere in the picture.
To continue the argument till eternity you might say then why the dynamics worked in favor of one and against the other. It so happened because it was written!
There is a better explanation for it. What happened in the above example is called coincidence. When the event is beyond reasoning and comprehension is it coincidence.
Luck is coincidence, or a set of coincidences.
Luck is not destiny. There is nothing written. Happenings of seemingly extra-ordinary events in people's lives are nothing but coincidences.
Coincidences are not bound in any rules. They are accidental. When a good coincidence takes place in someone's life you can say that he is lucky, and vice versa.
These two theories of luck — Luck as Destiny and Luck as Coincidence — are all-encompassing. That is, you must accept one of them. Now, as for the "Luck as Destiny" theory, I gave you a pretty good reason for not believing in it. So, the only rational thing would be to accept "Luck as Coincidence."
And why, out of million sperms released only the one that was fastest became victorious to be born and you took place. It's a coincidence! In the unimaginably vast universe only our planet has got life on it. It's a coincidence. Intelligence in human beings is a coincidence! The entire existence is a coincidence! If you can digest such big coincidences then how can you not digest the phenomenon as in the above example? There is no destiny. Coincidences are all over!
Now before you start thinking that after all coincidences govern your life and that you still won't have control over it let me tell you I have still not disclosed the most important part about the whole luck thing. It's in understanding the "coincidence".
What is coincidence?
When some seemingly extra-ordinary event is beyond reasoning and comprehension, we call it coincidence. But the fact is that in the existence nothing is extra-ordinary. Everything in Nature is governed by precise dynamics. The dynamics that causes the existence to be is beyond comprehension of human mind and that is the reason when something goes unexpected and uncomprehended it seems extra-ordinary to us, and we name it as coincidence.
The most important thing to understand about coincidence is that it is never targeted at someone. So, there is no question of coincidences governing your life.
Example: You are about to step out of your house and just then it starts raining. Well, it is a coincidence for sure and nothing wrong if you call it your "bad luck" if you didn't want the rain. But, if you think that this coincidence was targeted at you by Nature then you are wrong! The rain is an ordinary event in Nature and there is dynamics (or science) behind it, just like in case of everything else. It does not always rain only when you are about to step out. It rains even when you are sleeping inside your house. And besides, whenever it rains there is someone who is about to step out of some place. Does that mean the rain is always targeted at some people? That it always rains to spoil someone's time?
No. Just because sometimes ordinary events of Nature fall in the way which is not desired by you at the moment it does not mean that Nature has targeted it at you. Likewise, sometimes the ordinary events of Nature fall in unexpectedly pleasant way then too it does not mean that the favor was bestowed upon you by Nature.
Whether the event was extra-ordinary (in good or bad way) or not depends on your own situation and perspective at the moment. Thus, coincidence is not a natural phenomenon, but has everything to do with the person's mind.
Conclusion
You can surely call pleasant coincidences your "good luck" and unpleasant ones your "bad luck", but there is no reason to think that something miraculous as "luck" governs your life. There is no reason for giving up control of your life. Yes, your life will surely be affected by the dynamics around you, but then you are also a part of the dynamics in that your existence also affects the whole! Makes sense? So, you had better be active rather than counting on your luck!
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